“…In essence, the idea of ladies refusing to be married into polygamous homes is a very dangerous idea and it goes against the Sharee’ah of Islam. Let them shun personal interests and lower themselves to the Islamic legal rulings. Without this, they won’t be considered as truly righteous Muslimaat. Some of them would claim to be devout but when she is told of the likes of this ruling, she would turn on her heels.
Allaah said in a categorical verse of the Qur’an:
فَلَا وَرَبِّكَ لَا يُؤْمِنُونَ حَتَّىٰ يُحَكِّمُوكَ فِيمَا شَجَرَ بَيْنَهُمْ ثُمَّ لَا يَجِدُوا فِي أَنفُسِهِمْ حَرَجًا مِّمَّا قَضَيْتَ وَيُسَلِّمُوا تَسْلِيمًا
“But no, by Your Lord, they will not (truly) believe, until they make You (O Muhammad) judge in all concerning that over which they dispute among themselves and find within themselves no discomfort from what you have judged and submit (in full, willing) submission. [Nisaa: 65]
We are thus admonishing the female youths to remove from themselves, the notion that polygamy is not allowed except under dire necessity. Rather, it is allowed even without dire necessity and that it is better for the Muslim youth even if for mere sexual appetite. That he seeks sexual gratification in a legal way by taking a second wife is better for him than gratifying himself through the forbidden means of taking concubines. Allaah’s aid is sought. ”
- Silsilatul Huda wan Nuur: tape 345.
